Today, many couples choose living in before marriage because they believe it will let them know if they are suited for marriage. Living in before marriage has some advantages and disadvantages for the couple and some of those are listed below.
Perks of Living in Before Marriage
- Living together will lower the cost of food, rent and bills because two people are splitting the cost of living. In some cases, one person takes care of all the bills. In those cases, it is usually the woman who gets the benefit of free room and board costs.
- Having someone there for emotional support, sexual relations and for conversation without being committed in a marriage is considered an advantage for most couples.
- Living together before marriage allows the couple to test their compatibility. For some people, they want to feel that they can get along with someone while living together before they plan for their wedding.
- By living together, you will see how loyal your partner is to you. This will help you build trust together that cannot be shaken if you agree to get married in the future.
- By living together, you can prepare for marriage ahead by learning someone’s habits, attitudes and manners.
Disadvantages of Living Together Before Marriage
- By living together for a long time, you may get too comfortable with each other and totally avoid tying the knot in the future.
- Living together makes it easier for one partner to walk out on the relationship because there is no legal obligation to the other person. Living together can encourage an easy out for someone who wants it.
- Living together is often short-lived, statistics has shown.
- The female is the one who usually suffers if the relationship does not work out. Women tend to feel that they lose time, because of their biological clock, and dignity when they live together with a partner that ends in a break-up.
No one knows for sure that living together before marriage is the best thing to do. It is much easier to walk out of a relationship than it is walk out of a marriage. Everyone knows that divorce involves a lot more than what a break-up involves for a couple just living together.
Many pastors and marriage counselors advise young couples that if they believe in the institution of marriage to find someone who believes in that themselves. People who believe in the sanctity of marriage do not suggest living with someone first just to get to know them better or see if they are well-suited for each other. After all, marriage is an institution, and we cannot learn things outside of an institution.