Karrueche Tran and Chris Brown

Karrueche Tran and Chris Brown in happier time on Instagram.

Karrueche Tran has broken-up with musician Chris Brown, after finding out he has a 9 month old love child. While the actress has apparently forgiven a lot of Brown’s bad boy behaviour, the sudden appearance of a baby was the last straw. As with many couples, a lot can be endured but keeping such a large secret hits three notes that spell the end for many couples: infidelity, lack of communication and abuse.

Approximately 40 percent of all marriages in Australia end in divorce, and millions of unmarried couples break up each year before even considering marriage. While each relationship is unique and some relationships simply were not meant to last, there are three common causes for couples to break-up. By taking time to understand what these causes are, you can take steps to strengthen your relationship and prevent a break-up from occurring.

One of the top reasons why marriages and relationships end is infidelity. Cheating on your significant other is considered an unforgivable offence by many individuals, so many will immediately end a relationship as soon as they discover that their partner or spouse has been unfaithful. Some will make an effort to forgive the indiscretion and will try to move forward with the relationship. However, once that boundary has been broken, issues with trusted and repeated indiscretions in the future often remain. Karrueche Tran had put up with Chris Brown’s infidelities in the past, however the appearance of absolute proof in the form of a child is apparently that broken boundary for her.

Lack of Communication
You may have heard that communication is key to any relationship, and a lack of communication is often cited as a cause for a couple’s or marriage break-up. While everyone keeps little secrets, ones that will eventually have a large impact on the well being of both parties and the relationship are hugely detrimental. Chris Brown kept such a secret from Tran for nine months of gestation and nine months since the birth of the child.

Being able to clearly communicate involves both parties speaking their minds as well as listening to the other one. Because there will always be times when different parties disagree, open communication and great listening skills serve as a basis for compromise in a relationship. No couple will agree all of the time, but both want to feel heard and both want their opinions and beliefs taken into consideration.

Physical and Verbal Abuse
There are multiple types of abuse that a person can experience in a relationship. The most well-known type of abuse is physical, and this may include slapping, hitting or kicking the other party. This is a form of intimidation that can be damaging to the other party in terms of their physical health as well as their mental and emotional health.

However, abuse can occur without physical blows being endured. Even name-calling, humiliation, being unnecessarily controlling of an individual and more can be considered forms of emotional or mental abuse. In the case of very public figures like Karrueche Tran and Chris Brown, a very well publicised baby is a non-physical slap in her face. Some parties in a relationship may endure various types of abuse for years, but inevitably, these unhealthy relationships are doomed to fail unless both members of the relationship seek counseling and actively work to correct the situation.